Tuesday, November 15, 2011

How I want to Remember my friends....

The beauty inside

Sorry Nina, I know you told me to just make a synopsis, but I can’t help writing!! You have induce my heart to wriiiittttteeeeeee my heart out….hahaha…. it’s been quite a while I don’t feel like writing up a long essay. But, I promise, the point I want to make, I will highlight it, so for those who hate reading or have tons of other things to read, you can scroll down and go to the bottom of the post, where I summarized what I want to say.

I told Nina today, something I usually told certain people, close people, I told her about what I usually feels after every dinner. Most of the dinner, well actually all of the dinner I went (except for the one….. I shouldn’t say which) I always feel left out. Imagine now, already ‘left out’ after being barred, another dinner for me just to feel left out. Oh man....and I'm the exco some more...? So lets see, why do I feel left out?

REASON 1: Am I not beautiful too??

People coming to dinner always wears their best clothes and make ups. I don’t blame them, I do that too. But not everybody will come to dinners wearing ‘appropriate’ clothes. As Malaysians we all learn to respect each’s other religion. In islam, there is a certain boundaries to what a muslim can wear, doesn’t mean they can’t be beautiful, we can, in any ways, just not the wrong ways. For the non-muslim, they have the right to wear anything they want as beautiful as they want, but…. Being 1 Malaysia, in a place where all races are present isn’t it nicer that we respect each other believes? I’m not asking for every girls to suddenly wear the hijab and the guys wears baju melayu, but at least we wear something that doesn’t ‘offend’ others. I’m quite sure too that other religion also teaches not to wear very ‘revealing’ clothing. Its painful seeing our friends, who we sees going to the ward wearing such modest clothing and just being themselves, but coming to dinners as someone you hardly recognize! On top of that, some with too revealing clothing….its like, “oh this a part of you (body parts) I never seen before! Literally!”. I’m not referring to anyone, since I can’t remember any dinner experiences before, I erased it in my memory long ago. Sorry, but some are just, offensive to the eyes…. For those non-muslims who read this, this does not make me an extremist, I’m just being what a muslim should be.

Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what they do. And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof and to wrap [a portion of] their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, their brothers' sons, their sisters' sons, their women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed. (Source: Holy Quran; Surah An-Nur:30-31)

So as Malaysians, you don’t need to understand this, you can if you want, but at least respect it. So the point is, if there is one time, where we all gather for that very last moments, what do we want to remember about our friends?
  • A. Their clothes
  • B.Their make-ups
  • C. Their body (??!!!)
  • D. Their heart

Well, I don’t know about you guys, but I want to remember their heart.  Who says that beautiful is only to the eyes? Well, there are… but those guys are probably big time models and superstars, and we are future doctors, I’m quite sure there is a big difference to that. People can lie about how they look by wearing beautiful clothes and thick make ups, but no one can hide their inner beauty, it just shows… for some reason...

REASON 2: What’s the theme again??

I never follow dinner themes… except for the black and gold something…. Because by chance I have a black and gold jubah, so I just wear it. But honestly, those who really follows themes, I give them the two thumbs up!! Some put so many effort to really go with the flow~ its good really, but I wonder what happen to those expensive clothes we wear especially for our dinner, hmmm…… I don’t think I ever seen anyone wears them to the ward… honestly, I came to a dinner once, wearing something I wear going to the ward…hahaha… And I actually feel a bit proud, because I don’t see anyone who dares to do the same…heheh…I don’t know, maybe there are, but I didn’t see you, sorry..hehe.. so the point is, isn’t it easier if the theme is, well, the theme is just be yourself, release your inner beauty. Drink inner shine a lot… no need make ups, you can still look as cute as Nina Hoklai. (wink!wink!)But of course I wear a bit of make ups too sometimes. (coz I’m not as cute as you):D

REASON 3: Who was it the king and queen again?… but why…..???

Well, I’m quite sure most of the time we judge winners by how awesome they go with the flow~ I remember one of the judges of one of the dinners told me, “I don’t know who to pick….”, FYI, its not because there’s too many candidates, but during that time, everybody seems to be too “malas” to follow themes. But now, since medic student is more rich, such issue will not be raised laa… can follow theme punya la, no hal…. But on what basis do we pick the King and Queens? Just by what they wear? Its okay, it’s a good idea, since people put a lot of effort to look good in every dinner. In that case, so why don’t we make a dinner where inner beauty would be the theme, and the King and Queens would be, the nicest of friends…. The nicest of people…. The one who make a lot of sacrifices for all of us…. The one who sometimes cried for us…. Belanja us....when JPA is not in yet…. Let us sleep in their bed when we have nightmares…(tribute to Nabila who let me sleep beside her on the night i have nightmare during posting at HTI) know... those guys…. The one we really want to remember as Kings and Queens… hey this IS the LAST dinner for you guys right? So why not? Make the King and Queen someone who really are the kings and queens of 5th year medical student… as a way of saying, thank you friend, we will remember you always….

and hey! Why not make a lot of Kings and Queens? Different type of King and Queens for different categories.... and everybody should bring present too...oh oh...and maybe we can make small cute medals, and put there "best friend award" make it as dedications...:DD

I know the idea and conditions I’m asking here seems to be the opposite of what we usually do, but isn’t that the point of the LAST DINNER? One that really LASTS, not just in pictures, but in our hearts… We respect each other’s believes and boundaries, remember our friends for who they are, and give a BIG THANK YOU to someone who deserve it…..(oh, I think I’m gonna cry…TT_TT)

So here’s a proposal for a theme, if you don’t like it, well, I don’t mind, I still have another year to try this out! Haha!

“Release Your Inner Beauty”

Here is the reasons (for those who don’t read the doodles up here)

Inner beauty is not something you can paste with makeup’s and buy with expensive clothes, but you can show by just being a friend, being who you are, and respecting others as 1 Malaysia

It is a theme made to treasure friendship so that we will remember it during those last moments. No need to hassle on what to wear, just whatever makes you feel pretty everyday (you are pretty right?? And handsome too la…)

As a way to say thank you to those friends who really give all out for us for the past 5 years, they will be our Kings and Queen
Let’s not just treasure beauty, but let’s treasure, INNER BEAUTY

How I want to remember my friends:

Pictures of my friends,that they are proud of (if not, they wouldn't put it on facebook!)

 May God bless us all....


madziani said...

Salams zatel,

May Allah bless you. Well said lah!

sara said...

:) love this articels..thanks kak iman for sharing these information..:)